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Today’s teens who were born between 1994 and 2004, belong to Generation Z.
And Gen. Z doesn’t get the best press.
- A Huffington Post described Gen. Z as “lazy, unaware, and apathetic”.
- “Gen. Z is entitled, lazy, selfish, tech savvy, and yet incompetent,” -S. Greenfield
- “Many describe Gen. Z as lazy, self-entitled, tech-dependent, and narcissistic.” -D. Sylvia
So, What’s wrong with today’s teenagers???
- Their PARENTS!
- Their PARENTS!
- Their PARENTS!
These Parents were born on The Baby Boomer & Generation X Cusp.
Known for great success in educational, financial and social arenas.
Portrayed as a powerful generation of optimism, and achievement.
Elite Daily had an article that compared today’s teens with their parents:
Generation Z is used to being spoon fed everything, while their parents worked hard for everything that they currently have.
The Baby Boomer generation understood that the world didn’t owe them anything. They were a more independent generation, as they didn’t really have much of a crutch to lean on in comparison to Gen. Z.
Gen.Z’s an entitled generation, babied by their parents and society and it has really damaged their work ethic and the way they go about life.
They expect things to be done for them and if something requires a little extra work or concentration, they’re easily deterred from doing it.
Do I get a: AMEN!!!!!
Spring is in the air and it’s a perfect time to witness this phenomenon.
As the temperatures rise, so does the blood pressure of most The Parents.
Here are some examples:
- Billy is failing Biology and the final exam is only weeks away.
Who’s in a panic, Billy or The Parents?
Ummmm, The Parents?
WHAT CAN THEY DO??? They scramble to find a tutor….$50/hour…$100…
No problem, they’ll do anything to prevent Billy from experiencing the direct consequences of the poor choices he made all year long.
- Katie’s Prom is next month
She finds her favorite dress on the internet. It’s perfect and she has to have it, but it costs more than most wedding dresses and Katie doesn’t have a job.
Does she get the dress?
Of course she does!
The Parents buy it for her and, they’ll also throw in a stretch Limo and host a lavish pre-prom photo-op party for all of Katie’s friends and their Parents.
Everyone will look stunning in all the pics posted on FB, especially Katie in her lovely dress..
- Nikki’s a Junior and college is 2 years away
Does she have to worry about it now?
Nope. She probably hasn’t even given it a minutes thought,
BUT THE PARENTS HAVE.
Infact, The Parents have probably spent most of their Spring
- Researching ACT/SAT testing dates and review classes to sign her up for
- Mapping out college visits
- Getting all the ducks in a row for the college application process
And Nikki will accompany The Parents on these college visits, looking apathetic and mostly texting on her phone and taking selfies along the campus tour.
I have a confession: I was born in 1963 and I have three kids… do the math.
Our kids are CODDLED… SPOILED.
And we only have ourselves to blame.
Why can’t we let our kids experience their own failures… the disappointments of not getting everything they want?
Are we protecting them or ourselves??
Are we so addicted to success, that we can’t even imagine our own children may fail?
Do we feel our children’s achievements or failures are a reflection of us… our strength, weakness or flaws??
Even if we won’t admit it… It’s common knowledge we’ll do anything to help our kids succeed.
Our kids know it and so does everyone else.
In fact, high school teachers and administrators will bet on it.
They know teens will do NOTHING all year long and therefore rely on The Parents to swoop in, save the day and make sure there will be students to pass and graduate.
So, they created this thing called The Parent Portal and it enables The Parents to enable their teens.
Most High School Websites now have a “Parent Portal” where The Parents can (at any moment) access their teens class schedule, assignment/project/quiz/ test deadlines and grades.
It’s like The Parents can now have a VIRTUAL SEAT right in their Teens Classroom!!!!
Ironically, The Parents graduated from high school and college with very little help or involvement from their own parents and yet feel DIRECTLY responsible for the academic success or failure of their own kids.
Heck, my parents didn’t even know where my high school was!!
So, while our teens are absorbed in their social-media life…perfecting their duckie-face selfie or building their biceps at the gym… we’re chewing their food and spitting it into their mouths like momma Robins.
And their still FAILING…
Which just makes us work harder at saving them, because God-forbid they fail a class…
How will they get accepted into a GOOD COLLEGE?????
And once they get into college, this dynamic will just continue.
They’ll perform mediocre at best as we struggle to write every tuition check. If their failing a course, we’ll encourage them to “DROP IT!!”. We’d rather pay for courses they didn’t take, than have them suffer the consequences of an F. And we’ll all stay on this Hamster Wheel, until we STOP!
These kids don’t stand a chance at any resemblance of personal or professional success, UNLESS we remove their CRUTCH… (by realizing we’re the Crutch)!!!
So, in the upcoming weeks… among the onslaught of FB posted Prom, Senior and Graduation pics… steady yourself for the declaration of “What college acceptance Billy’s chosen!!!”
And who do you think will be posting all of these accomplishments…. The Teen or The Parent that earned them?
[Disclaimer: Yes, maybe there’s always that one teen & parent that’s an exception… 😉 ]